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Denise’s Daring Daydreams for 07/28/2016


Do you remember when you were a child?  I know, for some it was a while ago and for others of you not so long.  Take a moment and breathe into that time and place when you were young and had that special friend that you love to play with and spend time with.  And then think of the time that you and your friend had some sort of disagreement that led you to either think or speak, I’m not going to be your friend any more. 

I remember the day that happened with Pam and me.  She lived three houses away and in those days we were able to run back and forth through the back yards to each other’s homes.  It was almost as if we were sisters.  I remember the day when Pam and I got into a rip snorting fight about a doll’s arm.  We had both brought our favorite dolls to this big weeping willow tree in her front yard.  We had created a pallet with our mother’s blankets and pillows, a kind of fortress or “girl cave” and were setting up tea sets etc.…. you get the picture. 

I had run home to get one more item from my bedroom and when I returned, “Suzie” my favorite doll (which was one of those if you held her hand could walk with you) had an arm that was off and lying beside her.   When Pam returned I was “hot”.  I was livid.  How could you ever do that to my Suzie?  You know that she has been my favorite doll for years and now she is torn up. 

Pam assured me that she had not hurt my doll; that she was just seeing it the same as me.  She also told me to look at the blankets and pillows which had muddy footprints on them.  Little did we both know that her big brother had been waiting and watching.  He had upset our entire set up, walking on our mother’s blankets with muddy shoes, broken one of the tea cups, and torn Suzie’s arm off.  But through all of the fussing and fighting, I picked up Suzie, her arm and my tea set, leaving my mother’s muddy blanket and pillows and rushed home.  Of course saying over my shoulder, “I will never play with you ever again!” 

It is obvious when I retell this story that I did not know the whole truth, but by the time I got home to my mother, I had created a big story about Pam and all the horrible things she had done, even to my mother’s blanket and pillows.  My mother was not a woman who was very consoling and of course told me to go back and get her blanket and pillows which she would have to spend time washing – and to go to my room until I quit crying.   

It seemed like quite a while till my daddy came home, but when he got home I remember he pulled me up into his lap and listened to my story, he fixed Suzy’s arm and then he asked me a question I will always remember – my dad was a very wise man.  “Are you sure that Pam is the one that hurt your doll?” That was the first time I had even thought about the possibility that someone else might have done what I had conjured up in my mind had definitely been her.

I invite you to our Multigenerational Service this Sunday.  Our lesson is entitled “Enemy Pie” will be presented by our Youth.  I will be adding a bit of Byron Katie wisdom to the morning.  If you are not familiar with Byron Katie, she is the creator of what persons who are familiar with her call, “The Work.”   Join us on Sunday

as we do a bit of our own Work around Enemies and learning to rethink that label.  Our over own Harmony 5 will be sharing some of Judy’s awesome music.  

In this month that we typically think of and sing about Freedom, I leave you with a Byron Katie quote:  “No one can give you freedom but you.”  It happens when you do The Work.                                                                     Namaste’, Rev. D

Denise’s Daring Daydreams for 07-21-2016


When James Cameron created the movie Avatar, I do not know if he realized fully the impact it would have on humanity.  The premise of the movie was about a hybrid human-alien called an Avatar, created to facilitate communication with the indigenous Na’vis from the planet Pandora and pave the way for the creation of peace between the two worlds.  When I begin to think about that statement, I am reminded of what we as a spiritual community have begun this year; a way of communicating with persons from other beliefs than ourselves.  This Avatar had to be willing to fully put him or herself into another dimension or plane and be willing to experience life through different eyes. 

Part of the movie focused on “seeing each other.”  The cornerstone of the Navi philosophy was “to see with an open mind and open heart – to be present.”  They discussed two types of seeing:  “tsea” = physical vision; those things that I can see with my eyes; and “kame” = spiritual vision which included being fully present with compassion and open to understanding of another.  The Navi’s belief was that when we are willing to see beyond the physical realm we will truly become one and create Pandora, or “heaven on earth.” 

Becky Astarita and I have had an interesting week with our Peace Circle Process moving into Metro Schools and other arenas and digesting our own feelings about how this work seems to be creating a life of its own.  We are both getting practice every day in seeing not only with physical eyes, but also with spiritual metaphysical vision to a bigger picture that Holy Spirit, Universal energy, God…. is drawing us as toward. To be fully transparent and authentic, I will share with you that the leaders of The Church of the Living Waters have decided to not be a part of the Peace Circle Process at this time.  The conversations have been about beliefs that are different in the realm of religion/spirituality. 

I will share more on Sunday about the conversation, knowing that we are exactly where we have been led to be, and knowing that it is not our intention to make anyone sit in a Peace Circle.  Now how peaceful would that be?  We believe that everyone is exactly where they should be in this moment, and sometimes the process does not feel as peaceful when your “stuff” is triggered by other people’s beliefs, words, action etc.  And in saying that, how do I keep an open mind, open heart, and continue to be present so that I can really see you? 


I hope that you can join me on Sunday morning for a lesson entitled, “I See You.”  I think Holy Spirit has a great sense of humor because this lesson was not planned this week; it was decided upon over a year ago and our experience as a community has unfolded to this moment.  How do I choose to see others when I have stuff up about their decisions?  How do I choose to see others when I feel hurt or have a past with that person?  Can I remain clean and clear “to see with an open mind and open heart?”  How can I truly be present to others? 


The amazing Sherrie Phillips will be blessing our Sunday service with music.  And we will be again having an experience of seeing each other hopefully beyond the physical seeing.  Those of you that were in our service last week know that we had two experiences, one was a conversation, and one was the game of 2 Truths and a Lie.  The energy that was stirred “I am willing to know myself as I am getting to know you,” has given many of us things to think about and process this week. 

I leave you with words from Avatar: 

I see your heart, your soul, your fear, your emotions

I accept you for who you are.

I love you for your goodness and for your struggles

You may be seeing me

I may be seeing you

for the very first time. 


Namaste’ Rev. D